Allah (s.w.t) said in the noble Quran in Surah Luqman verse 17:
Which means: “O my dear son! Establish prayer, encourage what is good and forbid what is evil, and endure patiently whatever befalls you. Surely this is a resolve to aspire to.”
This verse narrates the story of Luqman Al-Hakim which is mentioned in the Quran. He was deeply concerned about his son’s faith and personal development. Therefore, he put considerable effort into educating his son, offering advice, and teaching him to safeguard his religion and character. Additionally, he instilled in his son the importance of patience in enduring life’s challenges.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) also once said about the role of fathers in a hadith narrated by Imam Tirmidhi, which means: “It is better for a man to educate his children than to give a mouthful in charity.”
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was an exemplary father figure whom we should always strive to emulate. His relationship with his daughter Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with her) is one of the most touching examples of his role as a father.
He deeply loved and respected her. Whenever Fatimah entered a room, the Prophet would stand up, greet her with a kiss, and offer her his seat. (Hadith narrated by Imam Tirmidhi). This act of respect and affection highlighted the profound bond they shared.
Additionally, he would provide her with guidance and wisdom, ensuring she had a strong foundation in faith and moral conduct. This example shows the Prophet’s emphasis on love, respect, and nurturing guidance, which aligns with the hadith about the importance of educating one’s children. His actions as a father serve as a model for all parents in providing both emotional support and moral education to their children.
Such is the vital role of fathers in the lives of their children. The responsibility of educating children is shared by both parents; it is not solely the mother’s duty. Fathers can fulfill this role by not only educating their children and spending quality time with them, but also by making the home their first school. This ensures that children are exposed to religious values from an early age – a time when they are highly receptive and eager to learn, absorbing information like sponges.
The role as fathers goes beyond simply working and earning money for the family. He should strive to be actively involved in the upbringing of his children and cultivating a safe environment for them to grow. Even though some of the days might be filled with work-related activities, it is important to make time for the children after work. His daily routine should include spending quality time with his family, whether it’s having dinner together or just sitting down to talk about their day.
During these moments, we should turn off distractions like phones and other devices. The time we spend with our families is precious and that they deserve our full attention. Cherishing these moments allows us to build stronger relationships with our family members. When our children feel close and connected to us, they are more likely to be receptive to our guidance and advice.
